Unhealthy Relationships
We will encounter and interact with a wide variety of people throughout our lives. Some will be casual acquaintances, close friends, business partners and intimate partners. Then there might be some to whom we need to distance ourselves from. Relationships can be the most difficult when communication, respect and honesty are impaired or absent. This can include family relationships as well.
Some people have a harder time with relationships than others. You might feel that your relationships with different people repeat certain problematic issues or circumstances. Perhaps people you trust turn out to be deceitful, show disrespect to you or betray you in some way. If this should be the case, reviewing and comparing patterns of current and past relationships might be appropriate.
Do you find that abusive people gravitate to you?
It’s important to set boundaries and keep your associations with people within those boundaries. At first your relationship with a person might seem harmless to you, but people outside of that relationship might be seeing something that your not. If they voice their concern, listen and analyze what they’re telling you. Is the person being respectful to you, respects your needs, shows respect to your family and friends? You deserve respect and there is no excuse for someone to be disrespectful to you, not even during arguments. Be aware and realistic about the type of people you allow to get close to you and who you need to distance yourself from. Set your boundaries and stick with them.
We all should try to be loving to ourselves and those around us. This doesn’t mean that you need to repeatedly expose yourself to someone whose behavior towards you is the opposite of love and cause you pain or harm. After all, you really don’t want to be with someone who is abusive. To do that would be a sure sign that you are not loving to yourself. You need to remember to love and care for yourself as much as you love and care for others. Everyone desires healthy, loving relationships. If you seem to attract people that cause you unhappiness, become aware of the patterns and what changes are needed.
This is so true. A helpful book that illustrates this is “Why is This Happening to Me Again” by Dr. Michael Rice. Everyone can actually preview the whole thing in pdf format chapter by chapter at his site http://www.whyagain.com
He also has some worksheets for recognizing, working through and releasing that energy. These can be downloaded for free at his site as well.
Blessings,
SpiritFREE1
Thank you for that information SpiritFREE1. I’m not familiar with Dr. Ryce. According to Amazon’s site though, his book is rated well by those who have read it.
Great article! Interesting info!
Hi Romeo
Welcome to Ocean Of Perspectives. Thank you, I’m glad you enjoyed my article. Hope you’ll come by again.
Quite an eye opener. Never heard of Dr Ryce before today. quite impressed.
Excellent article. I’m one of those people that the bad people gravitate to. I seem to choose relationships that are bad for me, and I realize this, yet I still stay in them. After awhile though, I learn to get out but yes, it has taken its toll on me and I now feel lower than ever after my last relationship. I’m going to take time off from dating until I can heal myself and find out why I do this.
-Diana
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Hello martin
I’m not familiar with Dr. Ryce either. What I saw looked interesting though. Thank you for coming by and for your comment. I hope to see you again soon. Blessings
Hi Diana
I’ve had my share of attracting destructive types into my life too. Perhaps everyone runs into this in their life, but maybe they handle it more realistically.
For me, I think it had a lot to do with my discomfort in saying “no” to people. I’m not comfortable saying or doing things that might be upsetting to others even if its truthful and needs to be said, this has caused me a lot of problems.
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People say that in a relationship, it has to be two-way, give and take. But there are people who are selfish that’s why some are taken for granted and ended up hurt inside.
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Hello mharms
That is very true on both counts. People who are self involved forget to give back. This leads to partners in the relationship to feel unappreciated.
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you are correct on this . . . but again, an understanding of individual diffrences comes in.
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Hello imelda
True. That’s when good communication becomes important. Open, none complaining discussions goes a long way toward helping partners understand each other and solidifying their relationship.
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